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Getting Comfortable In the Uncomfortable

Uncategorized Apr 21, 2020

I wanted to share these words with you tonight from German poet from the early 1920s, Rainer Rilke, that I've always loved:

"I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language.

Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now.

Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer." -

These words usher us to get comfortable in the uncomfortable. 

To get comfortable with having unresolved questions. 

And to let yourself be guided to live in the present, enough so that eventually, the answers to whatever is on your heart, or feels uncertain, or is unknown, becomes known. 

I have no idea the answer to a lot of the questions that we are all grappling with in our own unique ways, but what I do know is that through returning to my ritual of connecting with my soul every morning, emptying out my my mind, coming back to a place of presence, and re-establishing a connection to the universe to guide me, I can live in the present with ease and comfort. 

Look to the words above again.  May they offer you solace. 

One day, you'll look back and you'll have all the answers that you are seeking. 

In the meantime, stay present with your questions (I've given you a few journal prompts before), and learn to love the mystery. 

Lots of love,


Self Reflection Journal Exercise

1. What same questions kept looping in my mind the last week? 
2. What are possible scenarios or answers to those questions?
3. What is the best case scenario? What is the worst case scenario?
4. In either situation, what would happen - would you be okay?
5. Write out an affirmation for this week so that anytime that same questions pops in again, you can respond with a new affirmation instead. 

For example: "I can handle any and all challenges."  or "I trust that I will know the answers when I am meant to, and that I will know what to do when I am supposed to know what to do." or "Everything is unfolding in perfect timing." 

The key here is to practice equanimity - which means that you come to a place where you become more comfortable with any possible scenario (in your mind) - so you become more able to stay centred and let whatever is going to unfold, unfold.  In this sense, you let yourself just love the question, trusting that there are a myriad of ways of how the question will be answered, and becoming okay with any of the answers (no matter how difficult).